tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5484983282908707575.post1013880948556010713..comments2023-09-23T21:31:59.988-07:00Comments on mooshkatoo: The Daycare SituationDvora Koellinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09800456417809572290noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5484983282908707575.post-12421005399306759022012-04-18T13:30:01.047-07:002012-04-18T13:30:01.047-07:00Good luck on all accounts! *hugs*Good luck on all accounts! *hugs*Kellynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5484983282908707575.post-17416295820549006062012-04-18T13:25:57.107-07:002012-04-18T13:25:57.107-07:00Thanks, Kel. Yeah, I've felt nervous about spe...Thanks, Kel. Yeah, I've felt nervous about speaking up, but I do believe it is my parental duty to make sure Em is getting the best care possible. I think I am going to swing by her daycare center after I visit another option tomorrow morning, and see if I can speak to the director. <br />I will definitely let you know if we continue to look for an alternative. You are lucky to have found a place you are so happy with (and that Alanna is so happy with, of course). :)<br />Much hugs,<br />dDvora Koellinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09800456417809572290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5484983282908707575.post-47203078897943117242012-04-18T13:21:48.759-07:002012-04-18T13:21:48.759-07:00I agree that 18 month to 3 year old is a huge rang...I agree that 18 month to 3 year old is a huge range to have together. I would definitely tell the current Director the feelings and situations you are experiencing. It is your child they are watching for x amount of hours each week. Who else is going to stick up for her? <br /><br />I would also continue to look at other centers too for back up reasons. You know that I recommend the daycare that Alanna goes to in a heartbeat. I would be happy to give you the info if you are interested. <br /><br />Hang in there!!Kellynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5484983282908707575.post-28980514296525306352012-04-18T13:13:50.588-07:002012-04-18T13:13:50.588-07:00Thank you so much, Rachel. It is really comforting...Thank you so much, Rachel. It is really comforting to hear that the director of the program is receptive and responsive. I always feel like I am at a bit of a disadvantage because I only send Em part time (3 days), not full time, so that my concerns may be less prioritized than other parents'. But I think you are right that I should at least give the center a chance to hear my concerns and respond to them before pulling Emmy out altogether. Based on their response (and my experiences at other daycares I am considering), I can make a more informed decision.<br />I really appreciate your input, and truly hope that R and L's transitions are smooth and as UNtraumatic as possible. I did hear that many parents were voicing concerns about the age groupings, so maybe they will change their policies before R and L are due to leave the waddler room.<br />Many many thanks for your comments,<br />dDvora Koellinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09800456417809572290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5484983282908707575.post-60597922088044313322012-04-18T13:07:39.013-07:002012-04-18T13:07:39.013-07:00Totally sound advice. Thank you so much for your t...Totally sound advice. Thank you so much for your thoughts on the situation. I've been a little worried that my out-of-whack hormones were making me uber sensitive to what is going on, and that maybe I should just wait things out before acting on my feelings. But I also think, like you said, I have to listen to my mama instincts. And my mama instincts are telling me there are a whole buncha things that are off-kilter in Em's room.<br />Maybe I will wait until tomorrow, after my visit to one of the other daycare options, before I talk to the director. If the other daycare seems like a viable PLAN B, I think it will make me feel more secure in voicing my concerns, as you've said.<br />Much hugs and thanks,<br />dDvora Koellinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09800456417809572290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5484983282908707575.post-28718059016755236912012-04-18T13:03:35.151-07:002012-04-18T13:03:35.151-07:00First of all, congratulations on your pregnancy. ...First of all, congratulations on your pregnancy. Yay! Anyway, I totally wanted to hug you when I saw how upset you were that day, I just was not sure what to do. I think that you need to do what is right for you and seriously, having your kid with almost three-year-olds is not okay. When the daycare place was made to shuffle the ages by the state, moving up the 18-month-olds, they moved a bunch of kids out of my oldest's room and put younger kids in. As a result, we had toliet training regression and baby talk from G and really bad behavior. Things seemed to have normalized, but the amount of change was insane. R and L have to move in less than two months and I am concerned.<br /><br />I have been told by parents who have had kids at your daycare for a long time that the director is receptive. And there are other rooms. The room that J from her class moved into is supposed to be really excellent. I would tell the director that you are so upset that you are looking at other schools and you just do not know what to do. Tell her that you had a positive experience in the old room. My colleague, who has three kids thru kindergarten at that place told me that she actually requested specific rooms for her kids each year and the director granted her requests each time.<br /><br />I had a really bad exoerience with G's last school (before we moved here) and I would have pulled him out had we not relocated. And I did meet with the director of that school and did not get the response that I wanted.rachel leahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02725043080502947559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5484983282908707575.post-51783082264895892482012-04-18T12:14:50.382-07:002012-04-18T12:14:50.382-07:00Oh sweetie. I'm sorry daycare has given this w...Oh sweetie. I'm sorry daycare has given this whole time extra stress! Hugs. <br /><br />As you know, I don't have kiddos but I have left programs and groups before. Loving you and your muchkin and say the following: <br /><br />You know your guts are generally spot on (even when you're barfing them up) and the concerns you've voiced would sound to me like other options are not only worthy of consideration, but warranted at this time. <br /><br />You could give them your concerns and see what they say while you're looking, not telling them that you are. This could be a whole "perfect storm" of crap (wrong ratio of ages in the room, staff mobility, other) happening right now and given the opportunity to correct the issues, they might come through in big ways. <br /><br />Another option would be to share your concerns when you have a better idea of where you are comfortable going. That way, you have an "escape plan" so to speak and they still get a chance to step it up. <br /><br />As for what I would do when leaving, I say absolutely, tell them why. If you want to put it in writing to the center director, that's likely easiest, but they should know why people are leaving. I've heard generally good things about the program Em's currently in and would imagine they would like to know that people aren't happy.BakingSuithttp://bakinginmybathingsuit.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com